I LOVE HER

For those of you who don't know i'm a committed man and come tomorrow we'll be together for 4 years. And I love it!

People often wonder how I do it. How can I tolerate a Relationship for that long!!? How do I get through the tedium? I say what tedium? To me the whole thing is not a chore. I reckon people have a massive misconception about the whole idea of a long relationship. Wether thats down to how movies and televisions seem to glorify the whole bachelor life style or wether it's down to peoples own ideology I don't know. But I'm telling you, when a relationship works nothing can beat that feeling.

The question I get asked most is, how? Well let my try and explain. First and foremost, trust. Now I dont care how lame or camp I may sound, this is a question i'm often asked so i'm gona tell it how it is. If theres no trust it will all break down.

Trust determines everything. If theres a lack of trust then you being human will ultimately upset the other half. People you talk to will be a problem. How much you go out will be an issue. Any time spent alone becomes an opportunity to be unfaithful. Your mobile phone will become a device of suspicion. The list goes on!

Yes in a relationship it's about both parties but equally it's about your self too. Every person needs their own time. Every person has their own plans for the future. It all comes down to compromise. Just learn to balance between what you want and what's good for the both of you. Yeah it sounds fucking hard. Really isn't. When you love someone these things become easy because seing the other half smile compensates for that little thing you just gave up.

Another major element is fun. People often get extremely serious when it comes to relationships. Just take every day as it comes. Enjoy your self as much as you can. Yeah your partners but that makes him or her your friend too.

In all honesty when I asked her out I did not intend for it to be a long term relationship. people to often pick the best person they think they can get and try very hard to either mould into the person he or she wants or try to mould them into someone who they could live with. That will never work. Ok well it can but you may never be genuinely happy. Just be a bit more patient and wait for the person you can click with by just being you self!

Ultimately it all boils down to the oposite of what most people think. From my own experience it's about not being very serious and actually having fun. It's about giving the other half the freedom to do as they will. It's about letting the guy play some Call of duty instead of having a phone conversation and about letting her tell him how much she hates this girl at work for about 3 hours.

Yeah a lot of people think it's all about going around knocking up as many as you can. That is the ideal situation for getting gonorrhea or ending up on the Jeremy Kyle show. For genuine happiness nothing beats having a day out with that one person you love. Oh look Ahmad sounds so mushy and lame. Er nah mate! I am one Happy dude!