Yeah Fuck the whole "slightly humorous deceiving title to gain redears". What are friends? I mean we all know right? We go through tons of them! But then thats the thing, throughout different stages of our life we make lots of "friends".
That being said it's not people who you used to hang with that are friends. It's the people you DO still hang with. A lot of people who we consider "friends" are to put it quite bluntly .. momentary company or past tense.
From Secondary school way down to the work place in the real world. We make friends. Thing is though as we progress through these stages of life, we change. To me a real friend is someone who accepts you through these changes and rides them with you. No i'm saying a good friend is one that will join you in a threesome.
Ok ok back to the serious shtuff (yes that was an intentional spelling error, sounds cool!). What I'm saying is that the massive list we have named "friends" particularly on Facebook is a lot smaller than we truly believe.
The whole notion that a friend is someone that likes you for who you are is well true-ish, let me word it better. A friend is someone who can get along with you no matter how much you have changed. As people we have qualities and habits that never change. It's that aspect of people we befriend. When I say change I mean the situation. rich or broke, happy or sad, stressed or confortable.
These are emotions we go through as we plough through life. A true friend is one that you never have an awkward silence with. Someone who laughs with you .. and sometimes at you. Someone who respects the fact that you are bonkers. Someone you just get along with, without having to fucking plan every greeting and meeting with. A true friend is someone who does all that no matter where you are in life and no matter what situation you are in.
Yeah the term "friend" is thrown around ever so freely in society. Kinda like 21st century whores. That being said just bloody enjoy life with the REAL DEAL as much as you can. We all have these people around us. Appreciate them and honour the qualities that makes them so darn amazing. Yes right about now I sound like one of them lame fridge magnets that have a semi beautiful messages printed over pictures of flowers but hey I speak the truth. Unlike main stream media!
I digress.
So in honour of this post go do something crazy with one of these friends .. oh and also can you comment, like, share or just bloody do all of these things considering my efforts. My gosh guys, I have readers that are like totally oposite to "true friends".
Very interesting post.
ReplyDeleteIt is very true that you meet so many people in your life and consider them to be your friend at that particular moment. With the digital age you are even able to stay in touch with them over Facebook and the likes.
But it is interesting that some people that you may even speak to online, when you see them in person, they avoid you.
There is a quote that sums up your discussion rather well:
The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart. - Elisabeth Foley
I think it's a really good one. Like some of my friends I may only see once a year but I don't feel anything negative, it's just circumstances that prevent us from hanging out more. And to be honest, if I saw all my friends regularly I wouldn't have time for anything AT ALL.
It's sad that we lose touch with so many people throughout our lives but I guess that's a part of life..